It’s a question that I am not often asked directly, but one that I know many men carry with them. What if I’m still a virgin?
For some men, this feels like something they should be ashamed of, especially as they get older. Maybe you’re in your twenties, but perhaps you’re in your forties, fifties, or even older. The age itself doesn’t really matter. The uncertainty that comes with it is often exactly the same.
Many men feel as though they are falling behind. They believe that everyone around them has already experienced relationships, intimacy, and knows exactly how everything works. They wonder if there is something wrong with them. Whether a woman will find them strange. Whether they have somehow missed their chance.
Over the years, I have met several men who had little or no sexual experience. Some had never kissed a woman before. Others had been in relationships but had never progressed beyond that. What has always struck me is the amount of anxiety and shame they often carry with them. Not because there is actually anything wrong, but because society has convinced them that certain experiences should happen by a certain age. Personally, I don’t believe that at all.
Everyone follows their own path through life. Some people meet their first love at a young age, while others spend years focusing on their education, career, family, or personal growth. Sometimes circumstances, social anxiety, or a lack of opportunity play a role. Life simply doesn’t follow a fixed timeline.
What I would like you to know is that being a virgin says absolutely nothing about your value as a person. It says nothing about your attractiveness, your intelligence, or your ability to be a wonderful partner. It simply means that this particular experience has not yet been part of your journey. You may be wondering how I feel about it. The honest answer is that I don’t mind at all.
When I meet someone, I don’t look at how much experience he has. I look at who he is as a person. How he communicates. How he treats others. Whether he is kind, respectful, and genuine. Those are the things that truly matter to me.
In fact, many men with little or no experience are often incredibly thoughtful. They listen carefully, take their time, and approach new experiences with an open mind. To me, that is far more valuable than someone who believes he already knows everything.
Something else I often notice is how much pressure men put on themselves. They worry that they won’t know what to do or that they might do something wrong. But intimacy is not an exam that you can pass or fail. There is no checklist to complete and there are no perfect performances expected of you.
A date with me never begins with intimacy. We start by getting to know each other. We talk, share a drink, and take the time to relax together. That connection is important to me, and it often helps ease much of the nervousness before anything else happens.
Of course, I understand that nerves are part of the experience. In fact, I would find it surprising if you weren’t nervous at all. When something matters to you, it is perfectly normal to feel a little anxious about it. Most men who meet a companion for the first time are nervous, regardless of their age or experience. If you are still a virgin and are considering submitting a booking request, I genuinely appreciate it when you mention it beforehand. Not because it is a problem, but because it allows me to be mindful of your situation. It helps me understand that you may need a little extra time to relax and feel comfortable, and that I can offer additional reassurance if needed.
At the end of the day, a meeting is not about experience. It is not about performance. It is not about what you have or have not done before. It is about trust, comfort, connection, and allowing yourself to be fully present in the moment.
So if you have ever wondered whether you are too old, too late, or somehow different because you have not yet had sexual experience, I hope you remember this: You are not too late. You are not strange. And you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
You are welcome exactly as you are.
With love,
Rosa
