One of the questions I regularly receive from new clients is why I do not offer phone calls before a meeting. Usually, this question comes from a good place. Some men feel more comfortable hearing a voice before submitting a booking request. Others hope that a phone call might help ease their nerves or allow them to determine whether there is a connection before planning a date.
I completely understand that way of thinking. In many situations, a phone call is a perfectly normal way to get to know someone. However, I have consciously chosen not to offer phone calls before a meeting.
The main reason is actually very simple: I do not believe a phone call helps me determine whether we are a good match. When I receive a booking request, I am not focused on someone’s voice, accent, or how easily they carry a conversation over the phone. Instead, I am trying to understand who they are as a person. That is why my booking form asks for information about yourself, your expectations, and what you are hoping to find in our time together. That information often tells me far more than a ten-minute phone call ever could.
I have also found that many people express themselves better in writing than they do over the phone. When filling out a booking request, you have time to think about what you want to say. You can carefully explain who you are, what interests you, and what you are looking for. As a result, I often receive much more thoughtful and personal information than I would during a brief phone conversation.
There is another important factor as well: time. As a self-employed business owner, I receive messages, emails, and booking requests every day. If I were to schedule phone calls with everyone who expressed interest in meeting me, a large part of my week would be spent on introductory conversations. That would inevitably take time away from my existing clients, my business, and my personal life.
By keeping all communication before a meeting through my website and email, I am able to work more efficiently while still ensuring that everyone receives a response within a reasonable timeframe. I have also noticed that phone calls often do not provide the certainty people are hoping for. Having a pleasant voice does not automatically mean there will be a connection in person. Likewise, someone who sounds nervous or reserved on the phone may turn out to be a wonderful conversationalist once they feel comfortable.
For me, genuine chemistry is not created during a phone call. It develops when we are sitting across from each other, sharing a drink, exchanging stories, laughing together, and taking the time to truly get to know one another.
That does not mean I am difficult to reach. Quite the opposite. I usually respond to booking requests within 24 hours and always do my best to answer any questions as clearly as possible. My website also contains extensive information about me, my approach, my rates, and what you can expect from a meeting.
In practice, many clients discover that a phone call is not necessary after all. By the time a booking request has been approved and the details have been arranged, we have often exchanged enough information to meet with confidence and ease.
Ultimately, my decision comes down to clarity, efficiency, and quality. By handling communication through my website and email, I can dedicate my time and attention where it matters most: creating meaningful and memorable experiences in person.
And honestly, I believe the first time we hear each other’s voice is far more special when we meet face to face.
With love,
Rosa
