It’s a question that I am rarely asked directly, but one that I know many men think about before submitting a booking request. Am I her type?
Perhaps you’re browsing my website, reading my blog posts, or following me on social media. You’re considering reaching out, but there is a small voice in the back of your mind that keeps making you doubt yourself. You wonder whether someone like me could genuinely be interested in spending time with someone like you. It’s a very human thought. After all, we all want to feel accepted and to know that we are seen for who we truly are.
Over the years, I have noticed that many men have a certain image in mind when they think about the clients I meet. They assume that I only spend time with young men, highly successful businessmen, or men who look as though they stepped out of a magazine. Some worry about their age, their appearance, or their lack of experience. Others wonder whether they are interesting enough or whether they have enough to offer. The reality, however, is very different.
When I look back at the hundreds of men I have met over the years, I see an incredible variety of people. I have spent time with entrepreneurs, doctors, programmers, students, retirees, and men who were still discovering what they wanted from life. Some were outgoing and could talk for hours about their passions. Others were quieter and needed a little more time to open up. Some had extensive experience with women, while others had never met a companion before.
What strikes me most is that the men I remember best are often not the men who believe they make the strongest impression. They are not necessarily the most handsome, the wealthiest, or the most accomplished. They are the men who are kind, genuinely interested in others, and comfortable enough to show me who they really are. That may sound simple, but it is surprisingly rare.
Many people are used to presenting themselves the way they think others want them to be. During a date, I am much more interested in getting to know the person behind that image. I am far more curious about who you are than what you own. I would rather hear about your favourite journey, your biggest dream, or a meaningful memory than your job title or the car you drive.
Perhaps that is because companionship has always been about much more than physical attraction for me. Of course, attraction plays a role, just as it does in any human connection. But attraction is not based solely on appearance. Someone who is kind, thoughtful, respectful, and genuine naturally becomes more attractive. The way a person speaks, listens, and treats others often tells me far more than their age, weight, or hair colour ever could.
That does not mean I automatically connect with everyone. Just like in everyday life, some people create an immediate sense of connection while others do not. That is why I always ask for a little information about yourself in my booking form. Not because I am looking for a perfect profile, but because I genuinely want to know who you are. What makes you happy? What are you curious about? What are you hoping to find during our time together? Those answers tell me far more than a photograph ever could.
When men ask themselves whether they are my type, I often think they are really asking something else. What they truly want to know is whether they are good enough. Whether they are interesting enough. Whether they will be seen without judgement. My answer is simple: don’t let your insecurities make that decision for you.
Many men are far harder on themselves than they need to be. They see their age as a problem, their belly as a flaw, or their shyness as a weakness. Meanwhile, I often see someone who works hard, cares deeply about others, has lived an interesting life, and despite his doubts still found the courage to reach out.
So, are you my type?
There is no simple answer to that question. My type is not defined by age, height, appearance, or profession. My type is someone who is kind, respectful, and genuinely looking for a meaningful connection. Someone who is comfortable being themselves and open to sharing a special experience together.
And if you are reading this while wondering whether you should submit a booking request, I hope you ask yourself one question: What if your insecurities are wrong?
You are probably far more interesting than you give yourself credit for.
With love,
Rosa
