One of the most unexpected parts of this work is how much it teaches you. Not only about others, but also about yourself. What may seem at first like a graceful meeting between two people often turns out to be something much more layered. Every conversation, every glance, and even a moment of silence reveals something about how people connect, how they relax, what they need, and sometimes what they are missing.
In this work, I meet people in many different states of being. Some men arrive from lives filled with responsibility, decision making and pressure to perform. Others are already in a slower rhythm, open to stepping into a space where nothing needs to be controlled. What they often have in common is a desire for calm and sincere attention. And it is usually in that calm that something personal surfaces, something that rarely gets space in everyday life.
I have learned that most people are not looking for perfect words or advice, but rather for a sense of safety. The quiet knowing that nothing is expected of you in that moment. That you are not being judged or asked to explain who you are. That sense of space allows people to breathe. And in that breathing room, honesty tends to appear naturally.
At the same time, I also learn a great deal about myself. I have become more aware of how I listen, what I bring into a room, and how I sense what is needed. I have learned to slow down. To follow, rather than lead. To be present without trying to fill the silence. That takes attention, but it also gives something back.
Sometimes I see something in someone else that feels familiar. A way of thinking, a tendency to hold back, or the courage to speak openly. And then I am reminded that real connection goes both ways. It is not just about what I offer. We both bring something into the moment. And when that balance is right, something happens that cannot be planned or controlled.
I have also seen that people often have more to share than they realise. But sometimes they first need to feel that there is space to do so. A good conversation does not begin with words, but with a sense of trust. With attention. And that is exactly where I feel most at ease.
Over time, this work has not only sharpened my awareness but has also brought a kind of calm into my own life. I have learned that it is not about making an impression, but about being attuned. It is not about showing the most polished version of yourself, but about being quietly present in the moment.
And if there is one thing I truly value in what I do, it is this. That I continue to learn. About others. And about myself.
With love,
Rosa
